Our Heuristic Host
Heuristic (adjective): encouraging a person to learn, discover, understand, or solve problems on his or her own, as by experimenting, evaluating possible answers or solutions, or by trial and error.
This podcast has been a goal of mine since I first came across podcast interviews and developed quite the professional crush on Lewis Howes and his brilliant podcast, The School of Greatness.
I sat on this idea for nearly two years, never quite feeling like it would affiliate well with my previous business, a project management service called Your Third Hand Services (now defunct). And then in 2015, I got pregnant. I had a beautiful little, time-consuming, sleep-depriving bundle of boy-joy and took six months off to recover. Oh, wait, they call that maternity leave. Ha!
There is no way to prepare a woman for the transformation of identity that comes from becoming a mother, let’s just say, I didn’t handle it well. Returning to work was without a doubt the best thing for my mental health and the happiness of our home. I had a renewed lease for this project, and with it a whole new respect for time, that is, how organised a mother is, and what the phrase get shit done really means!
I began working on my new services after a client asked me what I would do for her when I returned. “I want you to do something you enjoy,” she said, knowing that the project management work from the prior 18 months didn’t make my heart sing.
I had a lot of conversations with myself about what it means to work with passion and purpose, to leave a legacy. These words are bandied about a lot at the moment so the first thing I needed to do was get over the story I was telling myself about what they meant.
In the process I have been able to develop my own definitions and applications:
What is the one thing you would do for free if money were not an issue?
That is your passion. That thing. That driving force that makes your heart sing when you do it. That’s your passion.
If money weren’t an issue, I would travel, write and connect with people all around the world. And I would never stop learning or teaching.
Imagine you’re a ghost, flying over the crowd at your funeral. I know morbid right, but just work with me. There at the front is a dear friend who says something about you that makes everyone in the crowd nod their head agreeing. This is intrinsically who you are, this is what you’re known for.
For me, that head nod goes to the act of teaching everyone I meet to hug on the left side of our bodies.
My legacy will be that everyone I hug learns of the power that comes from connecting your heart with another, and that they then share it with their world.
The fact that we are alive is no small miracle. I learned after I had a miscarriage just how incredibly difficult it is for the body to create life, and if you’re blessed with a perfect little being, you’re even more privileged. With the miracle that is your life comes an obligation to be of service to your world, whether that is your family, friends, community, country, planet, or all of the above.
There are only two definite things in life: death and taxes. Those folk in the 1% of the world’s population might be able to avoid a lot of tax but they cannot avoid death. And yet, your death will come at any time so it’s essential you work every single day towards being of service to others – in whatever form that takes. It doesn’t have to be grandeur. It doesn’t have to be Oprah equivalent, but you do need an extrinsic motivation to drive your inner mentor.
My purpose was defined when I realised that I’ve been a coach for a long time but never felt comfortable with the title. In essence, I have always helped people succeed in whatever they work on. People will often come to me for advice and guidance, tools and techniques to try and for self-improvement or self-design ideas. And that, in really simplistic terms, is all coaching is.
I learned more about what it meant to be a coach and found that many life or business coaches help with strategy and planning, but very few actually work with their clients to implement the changes they need to make. They can help their clients to define their purpose but they don’t necessarily help their clients to live their purpose, to put it into action and enable that purpose to motivate them to successful results. And yet, this is exactly what I’ve been doing.
My purpose is to help people to live their purpose as the Results Coach for Your Inner Mentor Results Coaching.
Can you see how even though I’ve defined each of the above quite differently they all come back to being connected to people through learning and teaching? That’s all this process does. It enables you to do that which you love so you can give that gift to your world.
Now, just because you’ve defined your passion, legacy and purpose doesn’t mean it has to stay the same for the rest of your life. You’re not a programmed robot. I expect that as your inner mentor develops you’ll grow and expand into a new and better version of yourself on a regular basis. This process is continually evolving as are you.
My why for publishing this podcast is to have a large scale method to assist with achieving my passion, legacy, and ultimately my purpose, as its currently defined today.